In this particular post I will be sharing five (5) reasons why I decided to go natural with my hair. Yes, I say natural because there is/are “unnatural” hair or better put “chemical/artificial” methods that we ladies have incorporated into our daily hairstyle routines.
But first, I’d like to make one thing clear, that we are all different therefore we have different hair types and what may work for me may or may not work for you. So, I as a Papua New Guinean, a Melanesian from the South Pacific islands, my people naturally have thick, course, kinky and fuzzy hair. Other women from other places have different hair types, textures and lengths.
I have tried many hair styling methods. But in this particular post I will be discussing about how relaxing my hair proved to be a bad thing for my natural hair after a few years. So lets get into it, here are the five reasons why I’ve decided to go natural.
“my hair was styled here by my 11 year old niece, she wanted a shout out!”
1. I love my natural hair
I guess as you grow older and mature as a person you become comfortable in who you are. For me, I have learnt to embrace my hair and it’s uniqueness. I love how my hair can do different styles that other hair types cannot and how it being different is beautiful. My Asian and Caucasian friends tell me they love my hair cause I can do so much with it, and I tell them I love their hair cause they can do so many things I can’t do with mine. So embracing your type of different is the first step to loving your hair.
I also love seeing how my hair can grow, after going natural. Our hair as Melanesian (black) women or women in general has so much potential if we take care of it. As women, hair has become such a big part of our lives. When we do our hair, we feel and act different, and we suddenly possess a new level of confidence too. So having good, lovely and healthy hair is important to us ladies.
So now to my story, after relaxing my hair for years, learning to love and live with my natural hair was a challenge. I had days (most days) when my kinky mess just wouldn’t cooperate and it was frustrating. This new hair journey has taught me patience, and I mean “a lot” of patience. As I kept taking care of my hair by oiling it, massaging (my scalp), braiding it, moisturising it etc, I watched as my hair transformed in only a few months and I am so proud of it.
2. I am now better informed
Thanks to technology and the Internet we can access information anywhere at anytime. Educating yourself about your hair type is crucial in the hair growth process. I subscribed to a lot of hair and beauty channels on Youtube, and I follow hair and beauty bloggers on Instagram, Pinterest, Tumblr and Facebook. I like how easy it is to connect with these people and ask them questions about their hair journey. Each blogger I talk to is encouraging and helpful. I read and see how their way of doing hair and incorporate their styles to what suits me. One of my favorite hair bloggers is, yinkanaturalista.tumblr.com. She is Nigerian, and born and raised in USA. She has been on her natural hair journey for four years now. I follow her on Instagram and I love watching her hair journey, it’s so motivating, if she can do it, so can you and I as well!
3. Relaxed hair isn’t healthy overtime
At the young age of ten (or younger, I don’t remember), I relaxed my hair for the first time. At that time a lot of girls my age and older were relaxing their hair so my sisters and I decided to try it out. And we loved the results because we saw how long our hair can actually be! But sadly, those first time results did not last and it won’t in the long run. I’ve learnt that as you continue using chemicals to grow your hair, it actually weakens and damages it.
For those of you not familiar with the term “relaxing”, according to naturallycurly.com it means, a hair relaxer, lotion or cream that makes the hair easier to straighten and manage. It reduces the curl by breaking down the hair strand and chemically altering the texture. Most women who decide to get their hair relaxed have curly hair who want it to be stick straight without any frizz.
After yeas of relaxing I saw that my hair was losing it’s strength. My hair grew thinner and weaker because of the constant application of chemicals. I started getting dandruff and became lazy when it came to doing my hair. I would let the chemicals do the work for me and all I had to do was spritz some olive shimmer on and brush down my hair. I did that hairstyle all through out primary to high school. Shout-out to my sweet Daddy who didn’t mind taking me to the hair salon everything three to four months to re-touch my hair! Anyway, my hair did grow longer as I kept relaxing it but it broke away because I didn’t take good care of it. Relaxing your hair is high maintenance so nah… I’d rather save money than relax my hair and watch it weaken.
4. It’s less expensive
Going and being natural saves a lot of money. For me at first, I bought a lot of products to try out so I had to spend a lot at first. But when you spend, you can actually spend a lot once and the products you buy can last you. You can keep those products and use them for months (it depends on how much and how often you use them). Investing in good quality hair products is better than spending money on relaxing your hair or using other synthetic hair methods to style your hair. Don’t get me wrong, using synthetic hair styles is not wrong (I do it from time to time), its your choice, for me I find I save a lot of money when I press and straighten my natural hair then having it relaxed, weaved, or braided etc.
5. It’s something to be proud of
Back at the end of point one, I said growing your natural hair and seeing the results of your efforts is something to be proud of. Not everyone can or will do it so if you decide to do go natural like me then I can tell you that you sure will be happy with the results and at the same time be challenged to keep going on to see more results. Once you’re on this natural hair journey, you will love it because you’ll keep seeing great results. AND may I warn you that seeing the results can be addictive, honestly! Once you see your natural hair grow, you will want to do more! Be proud of who you are as a person, be proud of your looks and it will also make you feel better about yourself.